Barbara Bentley

Help to Deal with Domestic Violence


After my husband tried to murder me,  I decided I needed to understand myself. I knew that I would need help doing so I sought out a family therapist.  Through belief in myself, my journey, and my Higher Power, I found that light shines through darkness, but it takes a lot of work.


So if you're feeling your world is out of sorts, I encourage you to find your inner strength in whatever way works best for you.  Below are some of the steps I took along other helpful Internet sights dedicated to education and recovery from psychopaths, sociopaths and domestic violence.  Following the organizations are books that may also help you understand more about domestic violence and how psychopaths are abusers.

SAFETY PLANNING for someone involved in an abusive relationship is a necessary and important step. Planning can be used while you are still with your abuser or after the relationship has ended. While still in an abusive relationship, your safety is of primary importance.  This site, part of the National Domestic Violence Hotline, covers Safety Plan Guidelines, Personal Safety with an Abuser, Getting Ready to Leave , General Guidelines for Leaving an Abusive Relationship , After Leaving the Abusive Relationship, and a Printable Personal Safety Plan.
NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE HOTLINE  (1-800-799-7233)
Until the violence stops, the hotline will continue to answer…One Call at a Time. Help is available to callers 24 hours a day, 365 days a year. Get information and referrals to agencies in all 50 states, Puerto Rico and the U.S. Virgin Islands. Assistance is available in English and Spanish with access to more than 140 languages through interpreter services. If you or someone you know is frightened about something in a relationship, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
 or TTY 1-800-787-3224


NATIONAL TEEN DATING ABUSE HOTLINE  1-866-331-9474
The organization Love is Respect provides resources for teens, parents, friends and family, Peer Advocates, government officials, law enforcement officials and the general public. All communication is confidential and anonymous.  If you are a teen in an abusive dating relationship or know someone who is, you can use this website to find answers to "Is this abuse" or use links to get help.


U .S. DEPT OF JUSTICE - OFFICE ON VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN - LOCAL RESOURCESThis site offers an interactive map where you can click on your state to find local resources.

POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER (MAYO CLINIC HEALTH INFORMATION)
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a mental health condition that's triggered by a terrifying event. Symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares and severe anxiety, as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the event.  Many people who go through traumatic events have difficulty adjusting and coping for a while. But with time and taking care of yourself, such traumatic reactions usually get better. In some cases, though, the symptoms can get worse or last for months or even years. Sometimes they may completely shake up your life. In a case such as this, you may have post-traumatic stress disorder. Getting treatment as soon as possible after post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms develop may prevent long-term post- traumatic stress disorder.

POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER: FREE SELF-TEST
This site offers a free self-screening test to help you determine how
much you have been bothered in the past month by problems associated with PTSD.  Also offered along a side bar is a definition of PTSD, a video
The Effects of PTSD, Causes,
Signs, Symptoms, the video What It Feels Like, Risk Factors, Treatments, Self-Care, Co-Occurring diagnosis, Misconceptions, and Finding Help

AARDVARC: AN ABUSE, RAPE & DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AID &RESOURCECOLLECTIONThis site is for victims of violence, their families and friends, and the agencies and programs which serve them, both public and private. The goal of this website is to assist efforts to aid and support those trying to remove themselves from abusive situations and build healthier, stronger lives. For individuals, we hope to provide general educational and reference material as well as a comprehensive nationwide directory of services for "one stop shopping."

DIRECTORY OF CRIME VICTIM SERVICES
The  Online Directory of Crime Victim Services is a resource from the Office for Victims of Crime (OVC). Since its launch in 2003, the Directory has helped thousands of crime victims and service providers find non-emergency crime victim service agencies in the United States and abroad.  Search by STATE or COUNTRY.  Go the home page and click START HERE.

NATIONAL  COALITION AGAINST  DOMESTIC VIOLENCE The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) is the voice of victims and survivors.  We are the catalyst for changing society to have zero tolerance for domestic
violence.  We do this by effecting public policy, increasing understanding of the impact of domestic violence, and providing programs and education that drive that change.

FUTURES WITHOUT VIOLENCE For more than 30 years, we’ve developed innovative ways to end violence against women, children, and families at home and around the world. From domestic violence and child abuse to bullying and sexual assault, our groundbreaking programs, policy development, and public action campaigns are designed to build respect and healthy relationships.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE RESOURCES DIRECTORY This directory allows you to search for resources by entering your state. It provides information for men, women, LGBT, Children & Teens, Elders, Non-profits, Shelters, Rape Crisis Centers, and Legal Help.
http://thesinglemother.com/emotional-abuse-help-guide/

EMOTIONAL ABUSE HELP GUIDE This guide in on a single mother’s website, but the guidance and links to resources are a good source of information for any woman in an
abusive situation. It talks about What is Emotional Abuse, Aggression, Denying,  Minimizing, and Trivializing. The website also lists resources for victims of emotional abuse in the United States and the United Kingdom.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS GUIDEThis site offers information and links for What is Domestic Violence, Domestic Violence Statistics, Warning Signs of Abuse and Violence, Stopping and Helping Domestic Violence Victims, and Domestic Abuse and Violence Resources. 

FIVE BOOKS TO HELP US UNDERSTAND ABOUT PSYCHOPATHS AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
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